She showed up in this. Those are Coronas on her pajama pants.
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Steph would like it noted that she is not ashamed to be herself. Rock on Stephie, rock on.
The Quiet Woman is really good for people watching, the restaurant is small and the tables are pretty close together, its quite intimate. Since its in Corona Del Mar, every woman in the place looks like a potential cast member of the Real Housewives of Orange County. There were a few groups of these such ladies, Brady and I started commenting on how there were so many single ladies in the restaurant. Brady jokingly said, "must be nice to be so free." To which I replied, "oh these women aren't free, I guarantee that the majority of these single ladies are out looking for a man." This got me thinking about how a woman can have a great career, be successful, but still feel the pressure to find a man. I think the theory of the Cinderella Complex has a lot of merit, even though a woman may be successful and independent, she will still desire a man to take care of her.
I consider myself independent, financially and mentally. If I had to, I could survive without my husband. But even with this independence, there are certain things that I want, and expect, my husband to take care of. For example, I always want him to drive, I want him to deal with travel arrangements, I want him to get our table at a restaurant, to deal with our household finances, and to, of course, kill bugs. My mother always taught me to never depend on a man, to be educated, and to be able to support myself. But, I do consider myself old-fashioned. I don't mind the gender roles Brady and I have settled into. I cook and clean, he does the yard work and manages the finances. It works for us.
I think the pressure to find a man comes from multiple places. Obviously society pressures women to be married. When I was in my second year of law school, I was a law clerk; one of the male partners was shocked and seemed almost offended when I informed him I was not married. I remember being amazed at his response, I was only 25 and only half way through law school, why would I be married? So, I definitely think that there is societal pressure to get married. But I also think women feel the need to look for a man because they feel the need for companionship. And a woman doesn't have to be looking for a man, she could be looking for a woman. What I really mean is that women are looking for a partner. Someone to confide in, a person who will take care of them when they need it, someone to be with them when things are great and when things are tough.
I don't know what the ladies at The Quiet Woman were actually looking for; maybe a partner, maybe someone to take care of them, maybe a hook up. Or maybe they were just having a girls' night out. All I know is that I am glad I got married when I felt it was right and not when some stuffy partner though I should be, and that I have found such a wonderful partner in my husband.